Yes, mmm. I bought myself some when I went to that British shop on bonfire night [] (I blame Geoff, putting ideas into my head!) cheesy mmmness.

FB your hotel sounds great - apart from the dark rooms.... but you
don't have to work 14 hours a day hopefully? they should give you some
time to see the town.

 

But great that you've got internet, so we don't have to miss you too much. 

Don't know yet... I think it's going to be relatively quiet this week, and a bit more hectic next week, but we'll see. Although I don't know that I'll be allowed to just go off galavanting during the day anyway, and I don't think I'm brave enough to go out exploring after dark, certainly not on my own. The hotel is about half an hour outside the town as well, so not within very easy popping distance.

There are daytrips available which I might try to go on at the weekend, if I can afford it!

I'll have to do some sums later on to figure out how much I'll have to spend. The hotel is charging 20 euros for lunch and 30 euros for dinner in the main buffet, which is going to be a bit pricey every day for 2 weeks! I think there might be some cheaper kebab-type places tucked around the complex, I'll have to go and explore.

Something else I didn't know!  I do so love it here!  [sending you a sunny beam of light, FB!]

My (well Jamie's) gigs are getting closer and so I planned to celebrate
the right mood a bit with listening to Catching Tales again (haven't
done that for weeks) and I also was searching for Geoff's "Keep it to
myself". I have Catching Tales in the Vinyl edition (and only a handful
songs of it on Itunes... and I wanted to hear it from the beginning to
the end again, just alike when I listened to it for the first time....I
was searching those two records for HOURS. I'm already used to it that
Oliver always puts my stuff at the very last available places in our
record collection, but I just couldn't find them...after a while he
confessed that it "might be possible" that he "accidentally" "might
have swapped" them again for something else, because he thought they
were easily to buy again (and not some rare stuff). I was SO angry! He
did the same already with Geoff's record some months ago and promised me not to do it
again... and this time I was close to tears, because the CT-record was
signed by all the band (of course he didn't even notice that). So at one hand I didn't want to cry like a 12
year old girl because of some lost autographs, but at the other hand I
did want to show him, that not appreciating my property at all DOES
really hurt me...

I can't begin to tell you how angry I'd be!  Well, at least with the upcoming gigs he may have the opportunity to replace the autographs...if he's going with you... 

Actually he's really the last
person I want to come along with me [angry]. He wouldn't do that anyway
I suppose (asking for autographs I mean)...wow sometimes it's really
not easy to live together with someone... I'm not that kind of person
that threats with divorce for any little reason and I hate to play
revenge games... but what remains then, when you really want to
implement certain rules of behaviour? Can I have some advice from the
more experienced of you please (concerning long relationships)? 

Sorry, some else is goning to have to step in here with advice.  I live alone...and for the most part, I like it.  But, it's not like I'm turning down countless proposals of marriage either. 

Oh, "accidentally" I have a ticket left for the gig at Cologne now! You
wanna come? You should know that Cologne is the gay capital of
Germany...and as great as you will look in your new coat, you'll get
many proposals, I'm sure []

Wow heavy stuff ! I don´t know you and I don´t know Oliver so I can not judge. But I think the most important thing in all relationsships is to treat eachother with respect. And that`s the reason why I would be angry in this case. Do you think you can tell him about your feelings and he will understand you ?

I´m together with my husband since 13 years and we had heavy difficulties and will probably have troubles again but between all the anger and tears I felt my love for him ( my english sounds so bad ).I always was shure that it is worth going through the problems. And he also tries to understand me ! But you are right it is not easy at all !

I hope for you that you can solve this and I hope Oliver realises what he has done !

 

oh goodness I havent been here for AGES it feels, I hope everyone is doing fine, ive no idea whats been going on in everyones lives[:$].

 

Love to everyone, see you soon xxxxxxx

Tina, I'd try talking to Oliver again, putting it in terms of lack of respect like Seladon said.  The other solution I can think of is to buy a small safe or cabinet that can be locked to put things like that in...drastic but it might hit him over the head with your feeling that he can't be trusted to treat your things with respect.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Oh, I wish I could!  And I'd be only too happy to get the autographs for you!  I can just hear Jamie now..."OMG!  It's him again!" as he goes screaming in the other direction!  ...No he wouldn't do that...what a sweetiepie he is.  I have the one CD I got a formal signing proudly displayed on a little stand on my desk at home.  If that ever turned up missing there would be hell to pay.  I really hope you can work things out and come to a future understanding.  Why do I think Dave will be the guy to offer you the best advice?  We'll have to wait for him to sign on.  In the meantime, I'll be wishing I was on my way to Cologne.  Thanks so much for the invitation. 

I don't think a safe is a good idea.  It's seems to me that would bring up a lot of trust issues on both sides and it would ignore a problem that has to be addressed.  In the long run I think a safe would do more harm than good...better to have a healthy relationship than a safe full of belongings, but, again, I know nothing of long term relationships...

 

 

[lol] I must be cursed, he hates chocolat [] amd there is no way i,ll be dipped in cheese fondue [lol] it's a onw way lick story [blink][lol]

I usually target guys with hairy chest...just folow me I guess [lol][ph34r]

oh god monday morning sillyness

Yes orange has that fun feeling, sunny orange-Florida thing.

Sexy, stunning? that's a feeling you need to have in your head Lawrence. If you feel sexy and good about yourself, it just comes out! []

yep. plenty of peanut butter in the US, and brand galor! [rolleyes]

2 whisky bottles [lol] he must have been cheery. Spreading rumors then it seems [lol] And yes to karen's post on hidding for knitting (real meaning)  

I would feel so disrespected [:@]. I'm very careful of other people's stuff, and take care of my stuff so well.

I also would not go for the locking stuff up, that's creating walls within the house/relationship.

we're your casual dating []

Thank you so much for thinking about it, aunties... I'm not sure either if such a safe would be a good idea... but we have defenitely "respecting privacy issues" as well (as he sometimes reads my mails also), but more in a childish curious way than for being too jealous or overprotective...it might be a good idea to talk about the whole complex of property and privacy, because when I focus too much on the autographs, he can't take my anger serious (as it's ridiculous to him to ask for an autograph up to the age of 14).  And to be honest I tried to act more cool about it in his presence than I actually am (like avoiding too fangirlish behavior after gigs, when he comes along)... so I'm a bit in my own trap here.

 

Karen....first off I want to thank you for helping Kirjava get at ticket to the Berlin gig.  She is thrilled.

 I don't know what I would do if my husband traded off my CD's  I also have CT signed by all and have Keep it to yourself signed by Geoff.  I think his golf clubs might end up in the trash.  Anyhow for some real advice.  Tell him how much the autographed CD's meant to you and tell him in the future to ask if he is going to take your things...even better ask him not to take your things....autographed or not.  Then I would not keep my cd's with his.  Simple as that.  If he seeks them out of your own space...then trades them well that would be really rude. 

 I understand not wanting to go to a gig with him......I have been to two Jamie gigs with my husband and basically he does not like him like I do....only us Aunties  yes Lawrence included like him like I do.  My husband was such a stiff at a show in Northampton Mass that I left him sitting at a sidewalk cafe while I went and spoke with Tom Rory and Seb when they were  at a CD store.....Of course I wents nuts when they walked past us at the cafe and then told my husband I would see him in about 15 min.  But after the show he did wait in the car while I waited and waited for Jamie to come out of the show.....I was talking with Danny and then when I finally got my turn with Jamie and he signed all my cd's and I got my first little kiss well the look on my face told it all to my husband..... I went back to the car and he said did you see him and I said I got a kiss....well I guess my husband drove me home...who knows...I was on cloud nine.  Then he went to one more show with me and I was with another friend there and forumites and I told him I would see him at home and not to wait up after the show.....  So now I go alone.  I have a much better time and I can have a good time.  He told me I get too excited at a show and I should just stay in my seat not talk to anyone and just enjoy the music.  Yup he is not coming with me again.....  And when I met Jamie's parents and John asked me where my husband was....I said oh he can't come anymore...he likes sports...I like music and so I leave him home....

 I guess I babbled on here but I have been married probably longer than anyone on here and it works....he lets me do my Jamie thing.....  So Karen tell him to respect your things and that you will be going to the show alone. 

Okay, the safe might be a teensy bit excessive...I'm no expert on marriage/long term relationships either. [rolleyes]  I think the problem is that an important element of marriage is "what's mine is yours" but with that there also needs to be individual respect for each person's things.

A safe would really make him wonder what you have in there???? That is what my husband would think anyway.   That is probably not necessary....Tell him not to give your things up. 

My husband has no idea that the Guinness Jamie is holding in my avatar was the first one I ever drank.or should I say finished... I have the can and will keep it hidden......we are leaving that on a need to know basis and he does not need to know....

I wouldn't be ashamed of your pride over those autographs.  They take a lot of work to get and can be very valuable, especially with the whole band.  Plus the memories you have with them.  I'm sure he's very sorry.  What about having a good talk with him about privacy, etc.?  No yelling, but make sure you both understand what is not to be touched.  I mean a long talk here, so it really sinks in.

Would it be possible to go to the store he traded it to and see if they still have it?
 

Karen what did he say after he realized he traded off your cd's?

about opening things that are not adress to him...like x-mas cards!!!!!! []and then he panics....well wait and see this years x-mas card [lol] cos he'll be so tempted..."oh another card anonymous from canada"[lol] we might need a strategy here  *feels naughty*

happiness is all about small things, who cares if autograph for him is banal...it was for you memories of a great evening!  

 we need JA's opinion here...she'll be great with this type of things

jazzo...we understood in the "safe" idea, the anger and pain you felt about the violation of privacy.

jazzione, that long post was just sooo fab! love all that husband stuff you were saying. and yes i also feel that couple does not mean doing every single thing together but keeping some activities separate.

 

Hello 30's! I am glad to see I make it around to visit a little more often than some.[] []

Kathy, he didn't swapped them at a store but at a big party with some other DJ's and collectors... there's always this "what do you have, what can I offer for it?" going on... so I doubt it will be possible to get them back.

It was a bit strange when he realized it, I was already very angry and blaming him for treating my stuff so badly, that I never can find anything anymore (we have only a 60 square metters flat - two rooms.... one room is full of books, the other room is full of records and turntables and stuff like that... so it's not really easy to separate our things). And so he was in a defending position from the beginning of the argue...I said about 6 times "are you really sure that I don't search them for nothing and that they are still here somewhere?" before he admitted, that I was right...of course he apologized and told me that he wouldn't have done it when he noticed that they were signed...and that he wouldn't do it anymore. But when I didn't stop being angry within the second of his apology he became angry as well "about this fu*cking Jamie Cullum hysteria".

When he was at the gig at Cologne last year, he was really excited and said it was the best gig he ever saw (and he already saw a lot).... but the more I was excited after that, the less he was... and when he was in Hamburg with me, he already slightly annoyed me, saying things which killed the mood behind me like "he did that last year as well","oh, not again that song", "he's REALLY short, isn't he?" and after the gig when we waited for a short chat he was all the time like "you won't really wait here in the rain, will you???" 

 

*hehehe* fantastic idea!  

 

Whatever made you think that? ......maybe the one-and-a-half hour cross Atlantic conversation on Skype.  [ph34r][lol][rolleyes] So Berlin will be my first time alone at a Jamie gig......although I am still working on my Berlin-based friends []

I suppose I am lucky that my husband likes Jamie as much as I do, and thinks of him as a "mate I'd like to have a drink in the pub with"...... and he has become very "precious" about his Guinness T-shirt that Jamie signed last week ....... I have had to wash it, but I don't think it'll get worn again []  Like all our ever growing collection of signed CDs, programmes, magazines etc. which are all treasured .... Reading some stories here, I am pleased that Jamie's music/stage performances is an interest that I am able to share with Mr K.

Technically I'm maried for 27 years, but 4 and half years ago my husband decided to leave and live with another woman - so I think I fall in the category of long-term relationships an may give you some advice.

Karen, this is not a good understanding you have with Oliver. Even if you're living together some stuff is yours, some is his and some belongs to the both of you. And you have to respect each other's stuff, even if it seems silly! You have to respect each other's mail: well I openend letters adressed to Erik, when it was obvious that it were bills, but never in all those years I opened a personal letter - neither did I read his e-mail. Even if you're a couple the both of you need some time and space for themselves and buy things for yourself.

Even after we split up, which was rather suddenly and I got very mad about it, I never chucked his belongings out of the window (like they to in movies!) but when things were cooled down we split up our belongings. There are still lots of Erik's things in the attic and our African art collection we keep in joint account. There have been times when someone wanted to buy some of the antiques and I was more than willing because my income is very low, but I always phoned Erik for his permission and we split the proceeds 50/50. On the website-programs I've helped him with I still get a percentage when he's updating a system and so on. We're still talking to each other and are good friends, although his girlfriend doesn't allow him to come around very often, which is a bummer!

I've come to understand why Erik wanted to move on and came to terms with it although I still miss him everyday. You just can't switch love off, because your lover doesn't want you anymore. But I'm glad that we always trusted each other and respected each others property and choices. So Karen I really urge to make it very clear to Oliver that he has to keep his mits of your records. I don't think he means you any harm, but because he doesn't appreciate your Cullum-records they don't mean much to him and so he assumes he can swap 'm for something he likes better. How would he feel if you did the same with one of his favourite records? I'm a real bitch sometimes so if he does pull the same trick again, I'd sell some of his favourite stuff an watch hell break loose! Some people can only understand your particular anger if you do the same to them! BTW I'd just hide out his favourite record for some time with a friend, not actually sell it, so you can make amense...

Hope to be of help - but I don't want to split you up either []

 

Will need to confer before I send it...it might be shocked [lol] I have a way with words and new year wishes [ph34r] and he loveeeddddd last year's []

Do you think he traded Jamie away cos he felt Jamie was taking too much place in the relationship. All those comments he made at the second gig sound like someone's feeling treated ... just a thought...

 

Sadie thank you a lot for your long answer, of course you are absolutely right - at least to me reading each others letters is a total "no" for me too. I would never do that, even if there were serious reasons to be suspicious. But .... well he has an attitude to read them which anyhow makes me not too angry about it (it's rather like a child that is searching for the candy, when the parents are just out of the door *lol*)...it annoys me more than hurting me, but it's certainly not a reason to split. 

Brinky, probably there might be a bit of unconscious aggression too, but he has to handle it somehow... I mean... it's not that easy to be the wife of a DJ either - and I never interrogated him after a party how many girls he met (well to be honest, if he chats with girls at parties, he always talks about music and so they are all a bit bored after a while [] , so that's nothing I had to be really afraid of) *caugh* 

So let's make a naughty little conference a bout an even more shocking card than last year [lol] 

 

 Sadie makes some very good points, but I don't think "an eye for an eye" is one of them.  It just sets the stage for a war zone and diminishes you and all that you respect.   

I couldn't do that anyway ...[rolleyes] [wub] Hey Lawrence, how was your day so far?

Time for a quick break from serious matters, let's celebrate we've hit 100 pages in this thread!

 

Wow, that was fast Jazzo, already 100 pages !!!

The pic is ...erm...very fitting to this thread [lol]

Visual pun intended.  []
 

 Very slow today...that's why I'm able to pop in here a little more often than usual. 

A 100 pages!  WOOHOO!  We aunties certainly know how to keep ourselves entertained. I can't say it enough...it's such a pleasure to getting to know those who call this thread home.  Love you madly! 

Yeah... so let's Jamie do some stripping  for our entertainment...

Mr. Conductor...if you please!

Let me entertain you
Let me make you smile
Let me do a few tricks
Some old and some new tricks
I'm very versatile
And if you're real good
I'll make you feel good
I want your spirits to climb
So let me entertain you
And we'll have a real good time, yes sir
We'll have a real good time

Hmmmmmm...Now I'm thinking I should have posted this in the "Songs you'd like to hear Jamie sing" tread.

Karen,,,,Sadie gave some real good advice...  My husband acts just like Oliver at a show and that is why he doesn't go anymore.

 This is such a great thread....so happy to celebrate the 100 pages with all of you.....

adding my congrats ladies.... triff just stays out the way at gigs now and ignores me[lol] but i think the band might recognise him so no hiding for him.  Jamie asked me where he was once, i said at the back looking embarrassed.......

JA I thought of you today when  I was going into work there was a car with a license plate that started with JA parked next to one that started with MMK....  Okay so is my life boring enough with no prospects of seeing Jamie in the near future....

thanks Sue, if your anything like me though, that young man is never far from your thoughts, the times i've nearly crashed because of his gorgeousnesss!!!!!

got to dash, very tired, need sleep, nite everyone
 

 

After the gig in Hamburg Jamie recognized me and thanked me for my "beautiful compilation" I gave him a few days ago after the gig in Bonn... and Olivers comment only was "of course he must say it was beautiful, do you really think he'd say to a fan that his gift was horrible [rolleyes]"... so very strict no-hubby-policy the next gigs! [lol]

You are right he is never very far from my thoughts at all. Now JA I hope you have sweet dreams...Navy whites huh !!